The #1 Lie About Finding Your Passion

When it comes to mission, most men I know are on the fence.

They want to take on a bigger, bolder mission than the one they have now (which is often someone ELSE’S mission, or NO mission at all)…

…But they’re “not quite sure” what that mission looks like.

So they wait.

They mull it over.

They BROOD on it.

All the while, waiting for the perfect, fully-formed mission to reveal itself in a flash of light, the clouds parting, angels singing, all doubt and ambivalence burned away.

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Becoming The Man Who Climbs

You seek the top of the mountain.

There is a trail that leads there, but the way is perilous, and deep in snow.

You yearn for easy transport, for the helicopter to take you directly to the peak.

You want the silver bullet, the magic formula, the push-button solution that will wipe your old life away and replace it with something far removed… something utterly transformed.

But in your heart you know the truth:

The fulfillment you seek comes not from tricks, hacks, or shortcuts, but from taking one step after the other until you stand there, at last, on the roof of the world.

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Why You Need Enemies

Photo by 24842486@N07. Changes made

Photo by 24842486@N07. Changes made

The benefits to having no enemies is obvious.

But have you considered the COST?

What do you suffer as a result of your choice?

As men, we’ve been told our whole life that reigning in our power is the smart play.

We’ve been told that playing nice and getting along is how “modern men behave.”

But you know in your belly there is a price to pay.

You know that eliminating conflict from your life does not lead to peace.

It leads to numbness. Depression. Anxiety. The back cloud inside that is always there, waiting at the edges to swallow you up.

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When All Else Fails, Try Famine

Confession: I suck at consistency.

It’s true.

As much as I drone on about daily execution, incremental progress, and results borne of commitment, executed one faithful day at a time…

There is always a twinge of hypocrisy that goes off in my brain when I write that shit.

Because any measure of consistency I’ve been able to achieve in my life is a pronounced departure from my nature:

The nature of the gnat, the sloth, the meteor that burns in glory for a moment… then goes dark.

As my wife says of me, I’m all or nothing, baby.

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3 Ways Men Obliviously Hoard (And Suffer)

Spring is near.

Time to get rid of as much house-cluttering shit as possible.

Now, of course, most people feel good after having purged said shit.

But the typical way they go about it is torturous.

It’s as though they devise a “glut gauntlet”… then force themselves to run through it, subjecting themselves to all manner of self-inflicted bruises and battering.

This glut gauntlet has three deadly chambers, each of them wholly capable of bringing the well-intended purge process to a swift, bloody halt:

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We Are Not Samurai

Don’t get me wrong. The Last Samurai is one of my favorite movies.

Along with other “manly” classics like Braveheart, 300, Gladiator, and the rest.

And I understand how watching these movies can make you nostalgic for the days “when men were men.”

But we do ourselves a disservice when we hold up the men in these movies as paragons of ultimate masculinity.

We forget that this is SURVIVAL MASCULINITY we are watching here. Desperate men reacting to extreme, tooth and claw situations. Back when, to quote Hobbes, life was “nasty, brutish, and short.”

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3 Steps To Infinite Motivation

Here’s the quick and dirty on the fastest, simplest way to trigger a steady flood of inspiration and motivation in your life.

There are three things that must be present for inspiration to naturally flow to and through you:

1. The Ground

The Ground is the term I use to describe your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual capacity to do high level work.

Ground is fertile.

Ground provides stability.

Ground has gravity.

Without Ground, you are lost: floating through space, impotent.

Most men neglect Ground, focusing instead on glittering stars far overhead, never realizing the only way to reach those stars is by first building up the ground they will need to stand upon.

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Why Everything Is Crap (And What To Do About It)

When I flew first class for the first time, I couldn’t believe at how much more comfortable it was.

No wait lines.

No guy in front of me reclining his seat into my already jammed up knees.

No fighting for elbow placement on the small sliver of armrest you’re apparently supposed to share with the guy beside you in coach.

And suddenly it occurred to me: this is how flying used to be… for EVERYBODY.

Go to Google Images, type in “1960 airplane seats,” and prepare to have your mind blown.

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The Ownership Myth

I come from a family of “owners.”

Growing up, I was taught to BUY a house, not rent… to BUY the car instead of leasing it.

But after years of playing the ownership game, I came to realize that ownership rarely bestows the benefits typically ascribed to it.

I realized that we are seduced by the myth of ownership.

First off, you never truly “own” your house.

Your bank owns it.

Even if you’ve paid off your mortgage, you still don’t own it. The city does. Stop paying property tax and they will take it from you.

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The Man Makes The Man

Years ago, back before I had corrective eye surgery, I was buying something and was all “smooth and suave” with the cashier.

For whatever reason, I was especially upbeat and confident throughout that whole exchange.

When I got back to the car, I happened to glance in the rear view mirror and saw to my dismay that I was wearing my “grubby glasses.”

That whole morning I thought I had been wearing my “cool glasses.”

If you wear glasses, you know what I’m talking about. Your “cool glasses” are the expensive ones you wear socially. They are stylish, clean, and make you feel good when you wear them.

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