Death By Unisex

From a young age you’ve been taught that gender is a social construct, a set of learned behaviors one can put on and take off like a jacket.

And since feminist sentiment has decided that most conventional masculine behavior is distasteful, you’ve grown up with a more or less “gender-neutral” set of instructions for how to be in the world.

As a result, you and millions of other men have been walking on eggshells your entire life, expending insane amounts of emotional energy trying to live your life according to the one-size-fits-all unisex script you’ve been given.

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The Speed Of Courage

Most men are fundamentally daunted by their work.

Not because they dislike their projects, but because they perceive the project’s road to completion to be a long and difficult one.

It’s the sense that any project worth doing will take tremendous time and effort to complete, and may well still prove a failure in the end, despite all their trouble.

So we unconsciously inflate the time required to complete the project.

We pad our projects with “requisite steps” which are in fact non-essential and have no material impact on the end user.

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It Just Isn’t You

What do you tie your identity to?

Do you choose your actions based on how they make you feel about yourself, or based on how they advance your mission?

Are you so busy preserving and protecting your old, inherited, childhood ideas of who you are from your past that you’ve stopped asking yourself what you must do and who you must become to create your future?

You want to bring on a partner to move your business forward. But as you go through the paper work, the lawyer appointments, and the due diligence, you feel overwhelmed and pull the plug because you’ve decided the whole partnership thing “just isn’t me.”

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The Proper Care And Feeding Of Demons

There is this notion that masculinity is a basket of “good” and “bad” qualities that men can pick and choose from.

The pleasant, “good” qualities being things like provision, duty, and procreation.

The distasteful, “bad” qualities being things like lust, violence, and anger.

The project of radical feminism has been to convince men that they must “rid” themselves of the distasteful qualities in their nature if they are to find acceptance in the feminized world we now live in.

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The Myth Of The Bloodless Calling

There’s this lie out there that goes something like this:

To find your calling, identify high value work that is difficult and distasteful for the masses but EASY and FUN for you.

Now clearly, this is an attractive idea. Wouldn’t things be so much simpler if vocational success and fulfillment could be boiled down to the simple formula hard for you + easy for me = bank?

Problem is, it’s dead wrong. And I can tell you first hand you’ll waste precious years and open yourself to massive regret if you follow that advice.

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Man’s Most Destructive Glitch

I believe most male dread can be traced back to a broken model of the world we keep in our heads.

I don’t know where we get it.

But it’s there, like a glitch that threatens to bring down the entire system.

I call it the Terminal Sense Of Life.

It’s the gut-level feeling that your life’s natural arch is to go off the rails. To disintegrate into madness, pain, and misery, and that it will do so at any moment.

Whereas the Cyclical Sense Of Life views setbacks as temporary challenges from which you will bounce back in due course, the Terminal Sense Of Life sees these same setbacks as dreaded signals that the good times are over, that fate has caught up with you, that it’s time for your life to slowly and mercilessly unravel.

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The 3 Biggest Emasculators Of Men (Part 5)

At this point in the series, we’ve covered the three biggest emasculators in detail.

But now I’d like to talk about a fourth “meta” emasculator. One that makes Wage Slavery, Nutritional Bankruptcy, and Toxic Feminism pale in comparison.

This emasculator goes by many names:

Learned helplessness. Self sabotage. Victim mentality.

The root is the same: it’s the habit of surrendering your power to others.

You see, most men live their lives like Edward Norton in Fight Club: sensing oppression, they look frantically for an external source, never realizing THEY are the ones punching themselves in the face.

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The 3 Biggest Emasculators Of Men (Part 4)

Welcome to the fourth installment of my “3 Biggest Emasculators of Men” series.

So far, we’ve covered Wage Slavery and Nutritional Bankruptcy.

This week, we’re going to look at Toxic Feminism.

If you’re like most men, you have mixed feelings about feminism.

On the one hand, feminism has helped women win the safety and opportunities they deserve, giving them great strides forward in the public (civic and economic) sphere.

But feminism has moved women BACKWARDS in the private sphere–in the arenas of sex, love and relationship.

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The 3 Biggest Emasculators Of Men (Part 3)

Cropped photo by dancentury

Cropped photo by dancentury

In the last post, we looked at Wage Slavery and how depending on the whims of an employer screws with your masculinity at a core level.

This week, we’re going to look at Nutritional Bankruptcy–how the foods we eat can either empower us… or emasculate us.

The fact that the typical modern diet is dominated by massively processed “pseudo foods” is already well documented elsewhere in movies like Food Inc and in books like Michael Pollan’s Omnivore’s Dilemma (highly recommended), so in this post, I’m going to focus on a different angle: how the typical modern diet curtails our freedom as men and undermines our capacity to live a free, self-determined life.

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The 3 Biggest Emasculators Of Men (Part 2)

In the last post, I listed what I consider to be the three biggest emasculators of men today:

1. Wage Slavery
2. Nutritional Bankruptcy
3. Toxic Feminism

In this second post of the series, I’m going to unpack the first emasculator, Wage Slavery, and give you a simple battle plan to kick it in the teeth and move towards economic self-determination.

Some say ‘the love of money is the root of all evil.’

I say the LACK of money is the root of almost all masculine desperation.

In my view, employment’s destructiveness goes way beyond the obvious economic disadvantages (high rates of taxation, inability to deduct business expenses, and so on).

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